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Author: Gordon Chandler

It’s the middle of January and if you have recently suffered a breakup with your lover you are not alone. If you are in a relationship that is in danger of suffering a breakup then it is time to be very careful. January is right in the middle of the National Break-up Season. This time frame runs from the Christmas holidays until Valentines Day and is when people are more than the opportunity to be involved with a relationship breakup than other parts of the year.

Reasons for these emotional fiascos are easily defined. There is the stress of the holidays, from Thanksgiving to Christmas, when couples find themselves overwhelmed with the demands of family, friends and work. As their time together is increasingly cluttered they lose opportunities to communicate with each other or to relax together with no outside interference. Tempers easily flare and with their emotional guards down things are said that become extremely hurtful. When disagreements are triggered one or the other makes the wrong move and the relationship is ended, at least for the time being.

This would be the time to decide if this is the “love of your life” or just a “flash in the pan” love tryst you could easily do without. Pick the love of your life and there is no time to lose in setting things right. Action taken early after recognizing the problems will probably be the most effective. Maybe we could find a suggestion or two:

(1). Apologize: The dictionary simply defines this as: “to express regret for a fault”. When you see a trend in your actions and do not want to be misunderstood then get it out in the open before something festers! The trick to an apology is that it must be sincere. Start throwing apologies around for every action you take and they will become meaningless. If there is a true fault that needs to be corrected then just get on about it. Apologize and then guard yourself from allowing the situation to be repetitive.

(2). Forgive: Back to the dictionary here and you will find: “cease to feel resentment against a person”. If your lover has the same feelings towards your relationship as you then they also probably have brought themselves to the “apology” segment of side-tracking trouble. When they apologize this is your cue to get over it and forgive any action you did not appreciate.

Certainly this is the point where you also must forgive them even if they do not offer an apology. Perhaps they were unaware of the action or the hurt it caused. Your love is worth effort from you and you should use every advantage to show love towards your significant other.

(3). Communicate: One last trek to the dictionary and you find: “to make known, to give, to have mutual access”. Notice the word mutual here. That is what your relationship is to you and your loved one…a mutual agreement for love and companionship. Don’t drop the ball here, while you are busy with all of the forgiving and apologizing do not forget to talk it out once in a while!

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Author: Tom Kranz

Valentines presents can be a tough thing to pick out for men. Most men try to go with the most popular thing they see on the shelves, which is what every other women is most likely getting. You want to be one step ahead of the other guys when this holiday rolls around. Women love to brag to their friends on what they got for Valentines Day, and with this big chance to show how much you care, the important thing is how much thought went into the gift, not how much money you spent.

You want to make sure that your Valentines present, is a good one that will get you the brownie points that you need. Women love to be pampered and taken care of so you know that you can’t go wrong with a romantic dinner and dancing with just the two of you. Sometimes we all get caught up in the daily chores and work that we forget to take time for each other. You can make Valentines Day a day that the two of you just pay attention to each other and forget the rest of the world.

Make reservations at her favorite restaurant or be bold and go for one that is just a little bit out of the way so you can have her all to yourself. You can pick a place that the two of you have never been to that offer a band as well so you can enjoy some dancing after dinner. There are many places that have one area as a restaurant and another area as a dance club so you can have the best of both in one place. Many hotels have in-house restaurants and clubs, and you can often get a heavily discounted deal that includes a meal along with a night at the hotel. This can ensure not only that you have some quality time together, but that you also didn’t have to spend a fortune.

You want to be sure to surprise her with some sort of gift at dinner. Keeping her waiting until the last minute of the day is a great way to build suspense and keep her guessing right up till the last minute. Jewelry is always a good choice. Women love jewelry and no matter how long the two of you have been together you can find something that will be just right such as a necklace, bracelet or earrings. You can go more elaborate if you are in a serious relationship such as diamonds.

Women love to get pampered with Valentines Gifts so you want to be sure to take this day and let her know how special she is and that you want to be with her and only her. Dinner and dancing at her favorite place is always a good way to go. If you are not sure what she likes, then just ask her. She will be more than happy to pass on some ideas of what she would love to get or do for a memorable Valentines Day present.

About the Author:
Tom Kranz writes articles on Valentines Day and Valentines Day gift ideas.

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Foul language with violent undertones is sometimes needed to haggle the price down when looking to purchase a diamond so pretty, your bride-to-be’s heart will be yours instantly.

The four Cs: Cut, Clarity, Colour, Carat

The five Cs includes Certificate

Choosing the right diamond is hard. I think it’s better to take her shopping with you. The only downside is that she will believe that your budget is 3 months salary (before tax).

Quick guide:

Cut: THIS IS IMPORTANT! Gain agreement with her absolute best friend of 20 years, or it needs to be her decision. If you get a cheap diamond with a cut that’s too deep or shallow or narrow or wide, she’ll notice. The diamond needs to reflect light, otherwise you could have bought quartz for a millionth of the price. Smooth facets, perfect angles, symmetry. This is what makes her sparkle.

Colour: Yellow to Clear. Colour grade Z to D. J to G is good, F to D is best.

Carat: Weight. Not as important as the above. A big, dull, dirty, bland diamond is not what she wants.

Clarity: Cleanliness of the precious stone. Some say this is the least important of the 4 Cs, but still something to note. There’s a scale: Flawless (extremely rare); Internally Flawless (very rare); Very, Very Slightly Included (excellent quality diamond); Very Slightly Included (imperfections aren’t visible to the unaided eye); Slightly Included (may have visible imperfections to the unaided eye); Included (buy something else). The acronyms are as follows: FL – IF, VVS1 – VVS2, VS1 – VS2, SI1 – SI2, I1, I2 – I3.

Shape: Popular shapes include: Cushion, Heart, Pear, Radiant, Oval, Marquise, Asscher, Emerald, Princess and Round.

Certification: Official document that justifies the price you’ve paid.

Shop around and view diamonds with good light and a magnifying glass to aid. I’ve found that diamonds are cheaper in China Town (in many cities) or in the region they’re mined. The prices vary still. More expensive through commercial chain jewellers (display prices look cheap, but they are yellow and milky diamonds on cheap settings). Buy the diamond separately to the setting (jewellers tend to bring up the price of the same ordinary settings when a diamond is involved). Best to use a family friend jeweller to make the setting. Popular today is white gold. Good luck.

Author: Karl (sheslap.com)

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Author: Avishai Fuksman

Conversation starters can literally save your life on a first date.

Why?

Well, as you know, going on a first date can be very scary and intimidating. Our minds are overcome with fear and insecurities and we cave in to those emotions.

We’re scared of being rejected, we’re afraid of failure, we’re nervous about saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and we’re anxious about what our date will think of us.

All these anxieties are totally human and completely understandable – but they produce devastating results: they paralyze us and greatly inhibit our ability to behave normally and confidently like we do with our family and with our closest friends.

Our personal fears lead us to the most uncomfortable situation where we feel a terrible lack of confidence, all stressed out, angry and frustrated. The bottom line is that we’re doomed to end up in the most annoying, embarrassing and even humiliating situation, which we all know as that “awkward silence”.

Believe it or not, most of us do have the capacity to carry on a fluid, easy-going and enjoyable conversation with people we have known for years – so, with the right approach, it shouldn’t be any different with the woman we’re on a first date with.

And the right approach is… conversation starters!

Preparing a list of topics and questions that you can use on the first date can do wonders for your dating skills.

When you have an arsenal of conversation starters – it’s very easy to keep the conversation going.

You always have something to say, you develop a lively conversation like there’s nothing to it, you’re not nervous, “stuck” or “blocked” and you can avoid the awkward silence disaster pretty easily.

Here are 10 conversation starters that you can use on your next first date:

1. Has any book had a major impact on you?
2. What was the best bargain you ever found?
3. What’s the most annoying thing someone could do on a first date?
4. What’s the most unusual thing you know how to do?
5. Is there anything you can’t say “no” to?
6. What food could they not pay you enough to eat?
7. Who are your cult heroes? Why?
8. What was the craziest thing you ever did when you were a kid?
9. If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?
10. What would be the title of your biography?

There are so many conversation starters that can work for you fantastically. They can serve as a great base for a flowing, lively, enjoyable conversation that can let your date learn about the “real you” while you leave all the pressure, anxiety and fear behind you.

Don’t leave home to go out on a first date empty-handed. Sit down, prepare some great conversation starters, memorize and practice them and your chances for a great date will increase drastically

About the Author:
Avishai Fuksman is author of “The Date Saver”, a download-able guide for men that includes hundreds of first date conversation starters. To learn more, visit: www.TheDateSaver.com

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Author: Scot McKay

Have you ever been told you were being “too shallow” when you expressed to someone what you were looking for in a partner? I know I have. If we say we want our future mate to look a certain way, we get the “shallow” routine from people we talk to. Numerous women I’ve talked to report that they draw similar disdain when they say they want an “intelligent” man. (Hmmm…so why don’t men hear that when they express such a desire for the woman they hope to meet?) Furthermore, we all know what a woman’s going to hear if she says she hopes for a mate who is financially successful. My educated guess is it’s probably something similar to what a guy hears when he talks about what kind of body his future mate should have. So is there anything to this accusation of “being shallow” as single people in particular so often hear? Should we all “lighten up” on potential dates? After all…what we are hoping and dreaming of is a bit unreasonable, isn’t it? My answer is unequivocally NOT. If refusing to settle for any less than the mate I am going to be thrilled to be with is “shallow”, than I’m a “kiddie pool” among men. You’d better believe it. After all, I plan to spend the rest of my life with this woman, so why should I “settle” for half-hearted unfulfillment of broken dreams? My personal pet peeve is when someone tells me, “You shouldn’t be so ‘picky’. After all—you aren’t perfect.” Well…um…exactly. And who is perfect, for that matter? I happen to believe that people who are “perfect”, whoever they are, must have a really hard time finding someone to date. After all, who is good enough for someone who is perfect? Kind of an ironic twist, isn’t it? My opinion is that we tend to be attracted to people who look a lot like us, have the same values as we do, and share other similar things—like a sense of humor, for example. My girlfriend (and “podcast princess”) Emily disagrees. She thinks people tend to go for someone who is a lot different than they are. You know, the old “we complete each other” bit. Well, here it is: it really doesn’t matter which one of us has it figured out. Neither situation involves someone going after a “perfect” person, does it? Whether I want to find someone who is a lot like me or who “completes” me she’s not a Barbie doll. When we’re considering who it is that we want to spend the rest of our life with out any of the six billion souls on Planet Earth, I hereby declare that each and every one of us has every right to consider very diligently exactly who that person should be and which traits he or she should have. In fact, I highly recommend you do so. And once you do that, make sure you are the kind of mate who is going to make that person equally thrilled to spend a lifetime with you. Deserve what you want.

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Author: Daryl Campbell

You just walked into your favorite restaurant for lunch. You love the food but right now you have something else on your mind. You are expecting someone else to join you and here they are. Both of you greet each other warmly. From the first time you met on the job, there has been some intense attraction between the two of you.

You want to build on the emotions you are feeling and so does the other person; sort of. Why sort of? For the simple reason, they are already involved in a relationship with someone other than you.

This is nothing new. No doubt you have heard all those songs about falling in love with another person’s wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or whatever. The reality is it happens everyday and in most instances, like yours, both parties go into it with their eyes wide open.

Again they tell you they are involved with another person. You hear and understand but you still hold out hope that something will change the situation. You tell the other person, that they must feel the same way; otherwise they would not be here.

All of this maybe true but the best thing the both of you can is end it right here and now. You maybe the nicest person on the continent but in essence what you are doing is trying your best to break up a relationship just to satisfy yourself.

1. What if it was you?

It seems when people get involved in these situations they never stop to think what if the shoe was on the other foot. Let’s say you are successful in breaking up their relationship and having the other person all to yourself. Fine but now they meet someone else who attracts them even more than you do. What then? You wind up in the same position as the first person. Karma can be quite nasty so if you do not want to be on the receiving end than it is best to let it go

2. Trust

The other person tells you they are engaged or seriously involved with someone else. So what are they doing there sitting next to you putting out feelers? Curb your emotions for a minute and think. Can you really trust someone who says they are in a committed relationship but is out looking for some action?

3. Wait

You both agree to pursue this further except that the other person cannot quite end their other relationship now. You give them the cornball line that, “you are willing to wait as long as it takes.” The reality is nobody has that kind of time. Sure the two of you may get closer and more intimate but you are still the third wheel. As long as the other person remains in their relationship, you are sharing them. No matter how you feel now, this can get old very quickly.

4. The Explosion

It’s bad enough sneaking around but now it gets back to the other person. No they are not going to do the “proper” thing and bow out gracefully. In fact they are ready to fight so as to keep the other person in the relationship but more importantly not to be made a fool of. Hurt pride is a powerful motivator. Are you willing to escalate the situation? Besides you really do not know what side of the fence the object of your affection will choose to stand on. You may wind up winning the battle and losing the war in a big way.

It is in your best interest to avoid getting involved with someone who is already in a committed relationship. There are plenty of people within your world who are unattached and looking to see if they can generate some chemistry with you. Maybe yes, maybe no. But involving yourself with someone who is already involved can take a major toll on everyone concerned especially you. The victory in most instances is not worth the price.

About the Author:

Over 55% of people surveyed admitted to cheating on their partner regardless of whether it is dating or marriage. But statistics cannot tell you how to deal with the reality of an unfaithful partner

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Author: Peter Nisbet

Your wedding weight loss is important to you for more reasons than might be immediately apparent, and if you decide to lose weight for your wedding then you can only benefit. If you are unsure why you should lose weight wedding days are special and most people only have one in their lifetime.

Those that get married in the late summer or fall have little to worry about, because you probably spent time getting your weight just right for your bikini and these long hot days on the beach. However, if you are having a wedding any time from January to June, then you will likely have some work to do to lose weight.

So why not make that special effort to look your best? You might be wondering why you should bother to lose weight for your wedding, but there are many good reasons you should. Here are some reasons why you should try to get your wedding weight just right for your size and build.

Take note of that last part since not everybody looks good at 8 stone or less, and some women look best when their figure is a shapely size 16 or above. So don’t try to get that wedding weight artificially low, but keep it natural for your build.

With that in mind, here are some reasons why you should lose weight for your wedding.

1. Your Groom’s Feelings

Your groom will want you to look your best, and if that isn’t a good reason to lose weight for your wedding, then nothing is. He wants to be proud of you, and you should look your best to help him be so. A man loves to be proud of the way his wife looks, so cast aside your own doubts and look your best in the way you wear your dress, the way you look from head to toe, and in your confidence as you walk down the aisle

You know as well as I do that a woman feels good and comfortable when she is at the right weight – irrespective of that that might be.

2. Your Bride’s Feelings.

That’s right! It isn’t just the bride that should check out her wedding weight but also the groom. Men are not immune to being overweight on their wedding day, and they too should work on their weight before their marriage. If these pants are getting a bit tight then perhaps that waistline needs a bit of attention! Your bride might know you enjoy a few beers, but she doesn’t want everybody to see the evidence on your wedding day.

3. The Reception

Although the bride is the center of attention during the ceremony, it is during the reception that these few extra pounds are going to show. You can’t hold it in all day, and it will eventually show. So why not just remove the wedding weight problem with some intelligent exercise and diet before the big day? People definitely talk about how the bride looked (and the groom) and you don’t want ‘weight’ to be one of the topics, do you?

4. The Wedding Photographs

If your mind is still not made up, the wedding photos should be the clincher. The way you looked is soon forgotten – well, after a few years! So is the way they thought you floundered around on the dance floor. However, the photographs are there for ever – even your granddaughters will want to see them since young girls love weddings.

Are you going to be proud of the way you look, or do you need a few pounds trimmed off first? Are you a model bride for your granddaughters? Are you sure you look your best, or would a month or two of professional advice help you to look perfect? If so then do something about it.

5. You

How do you feel? That is also important. It might not be the most important factor since there are conventions to be adhered to. However, the better you feel about yourself, then the better you are going to look to others – up to a point of course.

Your wedding weight is important to you, and you should look the best you can on the big day. Losing weight for your wedding is not difficult, and the way you do it can be used any time you want to lose weight and for any reason at all.

The exercises and diets are based on the pretext that you will lose weight if you use up more energy than you consume. It is a simple equation based on science, and to achieve your wedding weight loss goal all you need do is balance the two: exercise more, eat less or balance the two so that energy expended is greater than energy consumed.

The secret is to find a way of reaching your ideal wedding weight without starving or exhausting yourself, since you have a lot to get through in organizing your wedding. This can be achieved if you find the right people to advise you and the right program to follow.

Incidentally, if your exercise is focused on muscle tissue, then those muscles will be developed, but for wedding weight loss you might prefer not to target weights unless you want bulging muscles as you walk down the aisle! OK for hubby, but for you. . . ?

About the Author:

If you feel that losing around 10 pounds in 14 days would help you reach your ideal wedding weight then visit Fat Loss Reviews where many brides and their grooms are doing just that without killing themselves doing it. Unlike many amateur plans, this is professional and it works.

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President Barack Obama greets professional golfer Tiger Woods in the Oval Office

Author: Lisa Daily

By now you’ve probably heard the sordid details of Tiger Woods alleged affairs with cocktail waitress Jamiee Grubbs, New York city nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel, and Las Vegas party planner Kalika Moquin.

The scandal comes as a bit of a surprise to his many fans, especially considering his squeaky-clean image.

Here are details so far, in case you missed anything:

On November 27, Tiger crashed his Cadillac Escalade outside his Florida home. There have been a number of reports that Tiger and his wife Elin were arguing over a text message. There has also been some speculation as to whether Elin bashed out Tiger’s car window with a golf club to “rescue” him from his car as has been claimed, or was, er, bashing his window with a golf club for some other reason.

Swedish golfer Jesper Parnevik introduced Tiger Woods to his wife Elin Nordegren in 2001, while she was working for Parnevik’s family as an au pair, “We probably thought he was a better guy than he is. I probably would have to apologize to her and hope she uses a driver next time rather than a three-iron, I would say.”

Why do (seemingly) nice guys cheat?

Cheaters usually fall into two categories: Those who are always looking for opportunities to cheat (serial cheaters) and those who find themselves with an opportunity to cheat and make a bad decision. (Unintended cheaters.)

Serial cheaters usually use sex as a sort of emotional band-aid to make themselves feel better about insecurities, growing older, depression, and for thrill-seeking, among other things. Serial cheaters seek out opportunities for sex – think ESPN’s Steve Phillips.

Unintended cheaters generally make a bad decision when presented with an opportunity to cheat, but don’t seek out the opportunity. This is the kind of person who sleeps with a coworker after an out of town conference following a rough month, or a difficult life change.

And once that horse is out of the starting gate, all bets are off.

So what does that make Tiger Woods?

At this point, it’s hard to tell. On the “Unintentional Cheater” side of the argument, Tiger had a lot of things on his plate back in early 2007 when Grubbs claims they began their affair:

First, he’d lived for a couple of decades under the intense pressure of perfection. Despite the fact that he has been in the media spotlight for a very long time, he’s never really had a screw-up. And he is, after all, a human being. None of us can sustain perfection indefinitely.

Second, Tiger’s father, by many accounts his north star, died in 2006 after a bout with cancer.

Finally, Tiger’s wife Elin was very pregnant with their first child Sam when the alleged affair began. Sleazy? Yes. But is it unheard of for a guy to freak out when his wife gets pregnant, whether at the prospect of a permanent relationship, or terror of the responsibility of becoming a father? Nope. In fact, it happens with astounding frequency.

On the “Serial Cheater” side of the argument, if in fact Woods did have relationships with the three women, Jamiee Grubbs, New York city nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel, and Las Vegas party planner Kalika Moquin, or more — it wouldn’t be a shock to learn there are even more women who have not yet come forward.

Once might be an accident. Three times is usually a habit.

A voicemail obtained by US MAGAZINE has been circulating the Internet:

“Hey, it’s Tiger. I need you to do me a huge favor. Can you please take your name off your phone? My wife went through my phone and may be calling you. So if you can, please take your name off that. Just have it as a number on the voicemail. You got to do this for me. Huge. Quickly. Bye.”

Can a couple move forward after one of them has an affair?

Only time will tell. The details of these alleged relationships are still coming to light, and it’s pretty obvious that Tiger and Elin will have a lot of challenges in putting their relationship back together if that’s what they choose to do. There are a couple of good signs early on — first, Tiger chose to protect his wife, instead of himself, when rumors were swirling around about the golf club/Escalade fiasco. Second, Yahoo Sports reports that the couple is now seeing a therapist several times a day and that Elin not only received an immediate $5 million dollar payout, she also gained somewhere in the neighborhood of $55 million dollars in a pre-nup revision. In exchange, she has to stick around for a couple more years and keep mum about her story.

Why stick around?

Maybe, just maybe, Elin wants to keep her family together. And maybe, just maybe, Tiger has had a wake-up call, and realizes all he’s been risking.

And if nothing else, $55 million and two young children is a pretty good incentive to give couples therapy a try.

For many people, cheating is a deal breaker. And the truth is, if they have any chance of getting through this, Tiger is going to have to own up to what he’s done with his wife and take responsibility for all of her hurt and anger around it.

And judging from his history, he might want to steer clear of nightclubs.

About the Author:

TV Dating coach Lisa Daily writes a relationships, love and dating advice blog. Need advice? Check it out! Lisa is the bestselling author of two dating books Stop Getting Dumped! & How To Date Like a Grown-up and Fifteen Minutes of Shame (a novel)

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