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My boss is very friendly. Cunning, suave, articulate, well mannered. My boss also earns more than me. My girlfriend has more male friends than me. Her best friend is a guy. He’s her flatmate. When I take my gf out with workmates, I can see the respected space given to us by my colleagues, but after a few beers or after I leave the table to use the restroom, I feel that people ask my girlfriend questions they wouldn’t ask her in my presence. Paranoid writings of a crazed lunatic, maybe.

Work is computer based. Everyone under 40 uses Facebook. Everyone invites friends of friends so that social gathering invites, or exclusions from functions, are understood and there is a documented social hierarchy. I understand how people add friends of other people’s workmates and partners. I do it too. What annoys me is that when people move in on my girlfriend without my knowledge. Only bad things come of it. Especially in the case where I found my boss chatting my gf up, talking me down, and saying how bad my background life is…

So she was shocked when I found out, but told me immediately why she hadn’t told me. She said she feared it would affect my work life and my professional relationship with my boss. She was right. She took the action of informing my boss that she was not single, not available, and currently seeing me, exclusively. I’m proud of her, for saying that. The facebook private messaging stored full conversation logs, so I could see the chronological messaging and couldn’t really take it out of context. I found out about it one month afterward. She had been using my laptop and left the website open.

My brother, my cousins, my mates and my boss, have had very attractive girlfriends in the past. I’ve lived in a house with very attractive housemates. Because the subject of my affection is in a relationship, I am not going to intrude. I’m not going to test their relationship. I’m not going to betray the man or the woman, my friend or their partner, my family or their family. I think that there needs to be a certain amount of respect given to those who are committed to their partner, no matter what.

The problem here is that I trust my gf, but I don’t trust my boss. I would warn any future girlfriends or any other people about him, in private, provided I knew I could tell them in confidence. I’ve been warning new employees at the office too. I’m not entirely sure what the work office ethics policy covers, so I haven’t said anything to my boss’ boss, nor to HR.

There comes a time in every man’s life where he feels jealous, but the action taken from there can be a costly mistake.

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